With the holidays upon us there are  increased demands on our time, energy, and pocketbook. It can become overwhelming resulting in short tempers and slipping into default mode of what is expected of me. There is a disconnect from your true north and the things that really matter to you.

When giving becomes a chore, a should, a ‘have to’ , it drains the joy out of giving.   The true spirit of giving comes from a full heart. It’s harder to access that if your feeling tired, drained, and unappreciated. It’s a good time  to take a minute and connect with your heart. Move some energy to recharge and refill your cup so you can enjoy the holidays in a way that feels good to you.  Here’s a quick  way to connect below. (and really a minute does make a difference but you can do it longer if you want )

• Close your eyes, put your hand to your chest.
• Take a deep breath directing the breath to your heart, allow the breath to fill your heart
• On the exhale imagine water washing away all the grit….tension, stress,
• With each inhale imagine love, compassion, peace, energy whatever feels depleted to flow into your heart from the breath and from your hand.
• Each exhale washes away  as above.

Connecting with your heart is a beautiful way to stay grounded in your truth and keep your energy flowing. Hoping you have a joy filled holiday.

We are all vibrational beings, a never ending symphony of movement. Most of which cannot be seen by the naked eye (yet). The tempo of that movement is your vibrational resonance. It’s your own personal unique song permeating your energetic as well as your physical body.

     What you experience in your life is a result of vibrational resonance, the physical evidence of your unique song. This is why your thoughts are such a powerful force. When you tune in to what you want rather that what you don’t want you are effectively choosing what you want to create. Here are a couple quick and effective tuning techniques, I would  love to hear yours.

Affirm – begin with an affirmation that feels like a stretch but is believable to you. Repeat it at least 10 times a day this sets the energy in motion to experience it in your physical reality.

Visualize – use your imagination and vividly imagine what you want to attract, be sure to really tap into the feeling. What does it look like, feel like, taste, how will you be in relationship with this experience. Let this ‘movie’ roll through your head a few times a day.

Breathe – Focus on your breath inhale the feeling of what you desire and exhale any resistance. You would  be surprised how much resistance you may be holding and how your breath will reveal it to you.

Write - write the story of what it is you are creating with you as the main character , write as if it has already occurred , then read it aloud every day for at least 21 days.

Chakra – tap into the energy of your chakras. Identify which chakra the energy of what you desire is located in(visit www.inspiredsoulalliance.comfor more info) and intentionally balance the energy of that chakra each morning and night.

Intention - set an intention to take 1 action daily towards what you want to manifest. Make that action the first thing you do each day.

Talk to yourself - leave messages for yourself, notes, email, text messages and voicemail. Congratulate yourself as if what you desire has already occurred.

     These are a few methods you can use  to move toward vibrational resonance. A minimum of 21 days are needed to affect the neuropathways in the brain to support a new state of vibration. Commit to a practice for at least that long for the highest success. Do you have a favorite technique for tuning your vibrational resonance? I would love hear your thoughts in the comment section below.

Stuck in a rut with the same old, same old. The spark and sizzle has fizzled out. Whether it’s your love life or the creative spark your looking for paying some attention to your sacral chakra can put the zing back into your game.

A fun way to get the energy moving is to try some hip swinging, move your hips in a figure 8 pattern starting out slowly and picking up speed. You can add some sass with a snap of the hip or a shrug of the shoulders to boost the energy a little more.

Taking a couple of minutes to swing those hips will stimulate your sacral chakra, where your creativity, sensuality, and pleasure resides, and there’s no telling where that might lead……

Here’s a video to show you how, this ones for you Sarah

This is one of  my favorite clips, it makes me giggle every time I watch it. It’s also a great reminder, just like the elephants, we all need to play. Playing helps move the energy in your sacral chakra, this also helps with creativity.

If your feeling stuck or boxed in taking a play break can get those creative juices flowing and shift your energy in a positive way.And who doesn’t need a little more positive energy! I’m going outside to hula hoop now   How are you going to add a little play time to your day today?

We are all faced with hundreds of choices each day, yet there are some that just get under our skin. You know the decision that feels so big or important that you find yourself questioning everything about it. Then just when you think you’ve got it down 3 more possibilities pop into your head and your back at square one.

Making a major decision triggers 3 things in the subconscious: the fear of the unknown, loss of control, and unworthiness. This shows up differently for each of us both in intensity and the actual way that it feels. Everyone has a hot spot that triggers their decision archetype more intensely, be it relationships, finances, or business.

There are 5 major decision archetypes. Most of have a blend of types depending on the situation and a highly charged situation will activate the primary archetype. Here are the core mindset, thought patterns and choice set points.

Tortoise

Mindset: choosing is overwhelming

Thinks: I just can’t make up my mind.;  Why is this happening to me?;  I just don’t know.

The choice is not to choose

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Hare

Mindset: speed = success

Thinks: Just get it over with already.;     Never mind over thinking it.:     Move on.

The choice is made fast without full exploration.

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Sparrow

Mindset: change is scary

Thinks: The devil you know is better than the one you don’t.;     I’ll stick with what I know.;     Don’t disrupt the apple cart.

The choice is the familiar, no change.

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Porcupine

Mindset: conforming gives up all freedom

Thinks: I’m not following the crowd;     No one tells me what to do.;     I’ll do my own thing; don’t tell me what to do.

The choice is whatever is different, regardless of what they really want.

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To change it’s important to interrupt the pattern. Each of our bodies contains its own set of energetic vortexes, lines and points that facilitate communication between the mind and body. This communication gets disrupted, sometimes completely disconnected, and we lose the fullness of our inherent well-being. It is difficult to access your best decision making ability with this disconnection.

Using tools to tune in to body’s subtle energy system to interrupt the long-standing patterns of neurotransmissions that we’ve established creates a pattern interrupt, allowing you to see things from a different perspective and choose differently. When you’re faced with a choice, deciding which path to take triggers your decision archetype, because the mind likes to categorize you go to what is familiar.   Energy work like chakra cleansing, EFT, conscious connection, can  create new neuro-pathways for decision making. This allows you to disconnect from the emotional baggage you may have around making a decision and change in general. The result is a more balanced, worry-free decision making process that allows you to be open to opportunity and the many possibilities that life offers.

In my conversations every day I talk with many people who deny that they work with energy. It makes  me smile because; if  everything is energy(and it is) then everything we do involves working with  energy. For many it is not a conscious thing and for some they simply don’t see that what they are doing is working with energy.

After all energy is this invisible force that is somewhat mysterious. You can’t see it, or touch it, but it’s there none the less. With current scientific advances we are just beginning to be able to measure it. It’s hard to claim something we can’t see. Yet we feel the effects of it all the time. Having a stressful day….feel the dull headache, tense shoulders, upset stomach? You can’t see stress( well okay maybe the crabby boss you can see, but not the actual stress he is causing) but you sure can feel it.

For those  whose work  focusing on stress relief, definitely energy work. How about about mind set; so often shifting a mind set  is part of the work someone does. Can you see it in customer relations, the receptionist at the dentist, a coach,  or a salesman?  It’s all about shifting the energy. The energy fuels our actions.

If we are doing it any way, why not hone  our skill and do it deliberately. It’s not magic, there is a cause and effect relationship with energy.  Focusing where you want your energy to flow and how you receive energy can be  a conscious  choice, one that is not all consuming.  A little bit of attention and awareness can create noticeable changes.

So, in what ways do you work with energy in your work, relationships, or everyday situations? What would be possible if you claimed the energy work you are doing?

The Seven major chakras are our primary system for energy processing. Each chakra processes a different frequency of energy and relates to a different area of the body.

What most don’t know or pay attention to is the different frequency in the front and back of the chakras. Tuning in o this can make a big difference  when working with blocks in your  energy system.

The front vortex of each chakra relates to the conscious self and our immediate reality while the backside relates to our unconscious self and our ancestral , past life energy.

When working with the chakras, the front side is where we access the energy from this current life experience.

The back side is where we access the energy to connect with our past life experiences, higher dimensions, as well as hidden knowledge, feelings, and secrets.

Here is a handy chart showing what is held where.

We are all spiritual energetic beings yet so often we forget the energy of being. The day to day routines, busyness, and ‘shoulds’  keep us disconnected. In day to day life with all that we do how do we keep the connection to our essence?

When we are in meditation or removed in some way from our day to day life we can often connect with our inner stillness, the essence of who we are and allow it to permeate our energy field.  Once we mix in the husband, children, job, life in general the connection fades.  As our energy field absorbs the energy around us; the roles we’ve defined for ourselves, the beliefs we hold, and the energy of others it’s easy to slip into the state of doing without conscious awareness of being.

We forget that as spiritual energetic beings we can experience the external without becoming it. We become attached to outcomes, circumstances, and ways of doing. When we become attached we limit the possibilities, narrow the field of vision. By attached I mean needing it to be just so, and excluding other possibilities.

There is an old parable floating around that goes something like this: There is a great flood and a man prays to God be saved from certain death, a row boat comes by and the man says “No, I’m waiting for God”, same thing happens with the rescue boat, and then a helicopter. The man drowns and when he gets to the pearly gates says “God why didn’t you rescue me?” God replies “I sent a row boat, a rescue boat, and a helicopter what else did you want?”

Having a preference for something is not attachment .The man in the parable was attached to how he would be rescued.  A preference for say, yellow flowers does not mean all flowers need to be yellow, simply that you like them better.

When we step into the energy of being we open the door to possibilities that we may never have even dreamed of.  When we are in the energy of being we are tuned in to the essence of who we are.  This essence does not have the constraints of limiting beliefs, attachments, or preconceived roles to play.

Awareness is the first step to staying in the energy of being.  Becoming aware you can bring your conscious attention back to the present moment, and step out of doing and into being. Using your breath is a great tool to stay in the energy of being.  Taking the time to focus on your breathing brings your attention back to the present moment and energy of being.  Consciously taking three deep breaths, inhaling and exhaling through your nose, periodically throughout the day will help you stay in the energy of being.

This at first seems to be a narrowing of focus, what it does is expand the possibility in ways that doing alone cannot access. Expressing the essence of who you are is a powerful and inspiring act, one that has a ripple effect. Will you add your ripple to the pond of life?

It’s in there somewhere covered with piles of paper, the desk, the one you’ve not seen so for so long forgotten what it looks like.  The folder you need is nowhere to be found.  You’re sure you have an appointment today if you could just find in the hundreds of emails in your inbox so you can check the time.  The phone rings and as you reach for it, your coffee spills, not the way you intended to start your day.

We all know how hard it is to work with a cluttered workspace.  You can’t find things, it feels chaotic, and you just don’t work very efficiently.   What’s happening here in the physical is a reflection of your energetic space as well.

The external is often a mirror for the internal, so all that external clutter very likely means you’ve got a whole bunch of internal clutter, energetic resistance that’s interrupting your flow.  But how do you know?  And really, what can you do about it anyway?

Try this:

• Take a look at an area in your life where you’re feeling stuck or struggling.  That’s the external clutter.

• Then set aside 15 minutes to write out all of your frustrations, fears, and desires for the area that you kept.  Anything and everything that comes up for you.

• Then take a deep breath and allow all of those emotions removed for you.  Just imagine them as if they are floating down a river that flows right down your spine and allow them to flow right out into the sea where they’re neutralized.  {An alternative to this would be to use a whiteboard and write all your frustrations there and then erase them.}

• Now, allow back into your mind what it is that you truly desire.  Notice if there are any fears or limiting beliefs or self-sabotaging habits that pop up.  And if they do, just let them flow out like in the step before this.  And keep doing this until you’ve got a nice, clear stream flowing.

What you’ve just done is clear up some energetic ‘clutter’. Very often when you finish this exercise, you’ll find that you really want to get that clutter cleared out of the way in the physical as well.

It seems like and innocent little conjunction, three little letters can’t really have that much power…..or can they?

‘But’ is most often used as a way to exclude something or introduce doubt. It presents an either or situation.  Example: I want dessert but it’s too many calories. As if the only option is to eat a high calorie treat or nothing at all, no compromise, no middle ground . There is a feeling  of choice being minimized  or taken away.

Then there are  the subconscious ‘buts’ that so often silently exclude us from our dreams and goals. These buts  are tied to a belief system, so unearthing them really is a gifts of  discovery and healing.  When the belief system and the silent ‘buts’ are brought out from the shadows, the opportunity to heal what has been essentially putting the brakes  on moving toward  dreams and goals, can be released.

The chatter in the mind  is riddled with these gems. When thinking  of a specific goal add but after stating the goal and a river of subconscious blocks will come  tumbling forth. Example: I want a successful business….but it will take too much time, …but I’m not really business minded etc.

The ‘buts’ reveal opposing energy that keeps you stuck.  Consciously changing the language used shifts the energy. Repeating it,  reinforces  and anchors the new energy  creating new neuropathways and new energy patterns.

There is power in the  language that is used, even a small change can produce  significant results.. Example: I want dessert and  I’m committed to honoring my body.  I want a successful business and I can define success on my terms.  Both the examples are more expansive and allow the room for possibility, compromise,  and creative ‘out of the box’ solutions. Rather than shutting  down in an either or situation it opens up the flow for opportunity.

Using but as an excluder seems to create a buffer zone making it easier to say no or avoid risk. In reality it creates distance from authenticity and congruency and this  is an energy drain keeping dreams and goals at bay.

Let’s try this little experiment, be very aware of your wording and each time you use the word ‘but’ rephrase it to a more expansive form, just like the examples above.  When I did this a couple of weeks ago I was very surprised at the number of times I shut myself down. I was working on a creative project that seemed to have more snags and speed bumps than forward motion, by the end of my ‘butless’   week I had shifted some major energy and was near completing the project.

Here is your invitation to try it yourself, join the experiment and share your rephrases with others below.